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Hope the rest of you find it helpful in some way.

"I feel 'fat'"

First, we've said this many time before. "Fat" isn't a feeling. Sad, happy, angry, frustrated, annoyed, scared, confused, vulnerable, lonely, (in)validated, cheerful, surprised, pride; these are feelings.

When you say "I feel fat" what do you think you really are trying to say? When you say "I want to be thin" what do you think you are really looking for?

While looking in the mirror, on your worst day, how would you describe yourself -- the catch -- you cannot use the words fat or thin or overweight or skinny or any of their counterparts. You also cannot use the word ugly. In our little world we aren't seeing physical descriptions.

See yourself for who you are -- not what your physical appearance and/or size is, or what you think it is.

This is my response:

When I look in the mirror I see a girl who is vulnerable, out of control, scared, weak, and stupid. I feel alone, worthless, and cliche. When I go on diets and starve myself I am doing it because it makes me feel powerful, safe, like a winner, successful, confident, and in some way...happy. I never accept my body because I have never accepted myself, I hate what I look like because I feel that others will and so I put myself down beforehand. That's what I think.